We’re officially done with the "expert" advice that tells you how to “communicate better so you don’t scare off the Avoidant.”

🗣 “They’re your mirror.”
🗣 “Be patient, this is how you heal.”
🗣 “Communicate better so you don’t trigger them.”

Sure, relationships take work. Communication matters. Even secure couples get triggered sometimes.

But you know what else matters?
Your peace. Your needs. Your nervous system.

I’m not helping you craft the perfect text so he won’t ghost you. I’m not going to teach you how to be “less needy” so he'll choose you.

I’m not catering to someone’s core avoidance when it’s hurting you.

You deserve someone who shows up without making your needs feel like a burden.

Not someone you have to decode just to feel safe.

Want love that’s real, reciprocal, and reliable? We stop glamorizing avoidants and start choosing ourselves.

That’s the work. That’s the freedom.

This Group Is For You If:

You’re dating and:

• You keep being drawn to emotionally unavailable men while the ones who are stable and kind don’t give you that same spark

• You’re trying to be open but can’t help wondering why the people who want you don’t excite you and the ones who leave you anxious keep pulling you in

• You know your attachment style and you’ve done the inner work but somehow you still end up chasing love bombers or men who don’t want anything real

• You find yourself wondering if it’s your trauma that makes you so unsure, if maybe your expectations are too high or you’re just too sensitive

• You’re starting to think about having a family and the clock ticking makes every wrong choice feel heavier

• You want a secure relationship but it’s hard to tell what’s real and what’s a trigger and you keep spiraling instead of feeling clear

• You sometimes miss the chaos just because it made you feel something and the quiet love feels confusing

You’re in a situationship or undefined connection and:

• You’ve been in the gray area for months hoping they’ll figure it out or finally choose you

• You’re holding back your truth to keep the peace, trying not to sound too emotional or too much

• You go back and forth every day, should I stay, should I leave, and it’s draining your energy and self worth

• You’ve tried to be “chill” and not rock the boat but inside you feel anything but calm

• You ask yourself if maybe you are the problem, too needy, too insecure, too intense

• You find yourself wanting to “help” or “heal” them instead of asking if they even want the same kind of partnership

• You know this dynamic is costing you parts of yourself, but the idea of walking away brings up panic and grief

You’re in a relationship or marriage with someone avoidant and:

• You’re tired of doing all the emotional labor and trying to manage both of your nervous systems

• You’ve tried to be understanding and patient but it’s starting to feel like you’re disappearing

• Every time you bring up your needs, it turns into conflict, shutdown, or silence, and you’re starting to think maybe you are the problem

• You’re wondering if your trauma is clouding your ability to love or if you’re just finally waking up to what’s missing

• You constantly second guess whether you’re asking for too much or expecting too much when all you want is connection

• You’ve been trying to fix the relationship but you’re realizing you can’t be the one saving it alone

• You’re not sure if this can work, but you want clarity, not just more confusion

• You’re craving support to take your power back, whether that means leaving, staying, or simply remembering who you are

  
  

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